No Stinkin' Thinkin'

We often think of words as actions of the tongue. Action is defined by Merriam/Webster as the process by which something produces a change in another thing. The tongue is actually just the messenger, but it gets all the blame! The process begins in the mind as your thoughts. It's true that we have to 'watch our words', but the real culprit is what we are thinking. How often have you had thoughts in the morning that do not honor the start of the day? If your thoughts are "What a way to start the day" and your heart is happy – that's great! But if you're exasperated or negative right away in the morning – watch out! That kind of stinkin' thinkin' can set a sad tone for the day, or worse yet a bad habit! We have all muttered phrases that sound like these; I can't do this! Look at her! No one cares about me! I am so worried about my friend! This again!… I could go on and on here... So, how does that typically work for you? Those types of thoughts do not propel you into getting a task done, nor do they uplift you or those around you. Personally, when I hear myself say can’t in regards to something I lack confidence in, I catch myself and say, “Of course you can’t! You just put that statement out to the universe and the universe wants to give you what you asked for!” Obviously time to put it in reverse, refocus, and reframe. We have all seen people do what we said could not be done!

We are often unaware of our stinkin’ thinkin’. Yet anytime we make others or ourselves smaller and limitations bigger - we are holding back potential. Destructive thoughts of negativity such as, anxiety, judgment, or criticism all lead to more of the same, and infiltrate our self-worth as well as our relationships. Most of us have specific situations that will trigger those negative, self-defeating thoughts. They could have origins in childhood, relationships, or work. The key is simply being aware of your negative self-talk that beats you up or worse yet, spirals out to the ears or energetic space of those around you. If you find yourself unable to climb out of a negative mood or thought, back up and try to find your trigger. Try to get in-sync with a positive response to the real and often dismal aspects that do happen despite our best efforts to remain upbeat. Then choose thoughts that honor and expand your energy in all situations. Realistically reframe the thoughts to I can, I will try, I am getting better, I will pray instead of worrying.

Remember the tongue that needed to be held? By practicing positive thoughts, the actions of the tongue can be reframed to repeat your affirming perceptions.

Get in sync with the positive track and turn your stinkin’ thinkin’ into sync-in thinkin.’

...always be the love that you are