When there is no answer…..to WHY?

There are horrid times in life when ‘WHY’ doesn't have an answer – when anger and grief are the only responses that will move someone towards the next breath of pain that does not feel like healing. There are times in our lives when terrible things happen that no good will come out of - heart wrenching losses or experiences that sear through us with pain like the fires of hell, scorching our very souls with unimaginable anguish that should not even try to be consoled.

These are the times when there are no words- except for the one grieving.

We must be real enough and loving enough of someone's circumstance of loss or tragedy and allow them to express the inexpressible- to safely and openly release the pain that we could not possibly know, and to create space for their present reality to find its way out of the tunnel of fear and anguish within them.

…there is no turning this frown upside down, no stories to share, no promises of scripture, no understanding...

…allow the time when raw anger and shock need ears to shout at...times when our tongues need to stay locked up in order to help others…

…there are no rules for grieving so don't pretend you know them...there may be a time to be near and be love, or time to leave and be love…

…there are times when there just are no answers

....always be the love that you are