Relationships

Springtime is a great time to seek new relationships, to reach out, to seek comfort, validation, and truth. New relationships can spring up at any time, but after the dormancy of winter, it might be time to change things up a bit.

We all have friends we call on for different reasons. We seek advice or wisdom from some friends. We have friends that are fun and adventurous when we have been working too hard. To balance that we have friends that are rational and responsible when we have been having too much fun! We are fortunate if we have friends who are grounding when we are scattered. We are blessed if we have friends we can confide in encourage and support us. How about those lifetime friends who know we will always be there, or the casual friends that accept the time lapses in the relationship and just enjoy the moments together?

I recently parted with a friend of many years – no harsh words or ill feelings – there was just no response, so I have realized that it has become time for something more stable and reliable. We only connected every month or so – just to touch base and sometimes it was much longer before I would reach out to check in. I accepted my part in the relationship because I was not always stable due to schedules and at times poor choices. So, I am pretty solid in knowing who I am and I have many relationships that speak to various parts of my life. I know what I am looking for to replace this particular relationship. I need to be supported, not daily, but in times of insecurity or wonder. I need to know that sometimes ‘it is what it is.’ I need to be reminded that there are many other blessings in my life, mainly my health. I want to be able to lean into that relationship and see truth. I don’t want judgment, just acceptance. I seek comfort from my fears and validation of my questioning head shakes at times. I welcome rejoicing when things are going well. These are some of the attributes of this relationship that I lost when it just stopped working.

So, as I seek to replace this particular broken relationship, I am determined to find that new bathroom scale that is just as kind, forgiving, accepting, and truthful. A scale that will not question where my journey has been and tell me to get off and exercise, or worse yet, bad advice, like staying away from the ice cream! If it could print out discount coupons for new pants – that would be a bonus! So happy spring, and be wary of relationships that don’t serve you, they can be replaced!

…always be the love you are called to be